Saturday, June 18, 2016

Say Yes to the Modest Dress - Featuring Bethany Hudelson and Lisa Ronsick

God has been good. This has been a tremendous event. It's rather sad that it is the last day for Say Yes to the Modest Dress! But, we'll not be too sad. Modesty Matters is coming week after next - and we'll have fun every day outfits and more giveaways! Please enjoy our last two brides and our super fun giveaway!

Let's welcome Bethany Hudelson to the blog! While I do not know Bethany personally, I've been blessed to be friends with her, her husband, and many of her church family on Facebook for the last few years. The whole mutual friends thing is awesome for meeting other believers with common interests and beliefs! 

Bethany and Gabriel just recently had their first baby! We are so thankful she took the time to be part of this event. Bethany actually made her dress, so I asked her to include a bit of extra narrative on that. Enjoy!

Hello, my name is Bethany Hudelson. I live in southern Arizona. I am married to the man of my dreams and we have a precious little baby girl of almost 4 weeks. :D 
My husband and I got married a little over a year ago, on May 23, 2015. It was the best day of my life, getting married to the man I love!
There is a bit of a story behind my wedding dress... As a seamstress, I got to make my wedding dress. :) About three years before my husband and I started courting, I had drawn a picture of a wedding dress. I also planned, when I got married someday, to wear a pair of true blue shoes, with a blue flower on top, as my something blue on my wedding day (like in the old wedding poem “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue”). I tacked the two pictures up on the board in my bedroom, along with a lot of other drawings I had up, and it stayed there… for a few years. After my dear husband proposed to me, I started planning my wedding dress. I made lots of sketches, but, at the end of it all, there were two out of all of them that I liked best, and one of them was practically identical to the one I had hanging in my room for the last three years! So, long story short, that was the dress I ended up making.

I chose a thin, white cotton for the gown, little white buttons, and white cotton lace. I used a Simplicity pattern to create the dress pattern that I wanted. I also embroidered a music note on the center front of the bodice for my husband, who loves classical music and is a musician and composer himself. The skirt was perfect- exactly what I hoped it would be! I also got to wear my mother's wedding petticoat with it, which was very fun. :) I so love how my dress turned out!
Why do I choose to dress modestly? 
Firstly, because it is what the Bible calls us to do as women. In 1 Timothy 2:9-10 Paul exhorts women "to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a clam to godliness." I’m not meaning that it’s not modest to wear gold and pearls or braid your hair, but I believe the principle of doing so modestly is what Paul is instructing.
Secondly, I don’t want to be a stumbling block for my brothers in Christ (or unbelieving men either). In Romans 14:13, in the last part of the verse, it says "but rather determine this - not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way". This passage goes on to talk about the unclean and clean, etc. Although Paul is not talking about clothing, I believe the principle still applies. Also, Jesus said in Matthew 18:6 "but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and be drowned in the depth of the sea." From both of these verses, I believe it shows that we as Christian women have a responsibility given to us by God to not cause our brothers to stumble by what we wear.
Thirdly, I wanted to keep myself for my husband (and still do); to be pure, to wait for him, and to keep my body for him- and only for him- to see. We are the representation of the bride of Christ. Don’t we want to be presented to our earthly husband like the church will be presented to Christ- spotless and without wrinkle? Would we present our souls to anyone other than Christ? Why would we want to present our bodies to anyone other than our husband? (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2, Deuteronomy 5:28)

Lastly, in Philippians 2:14 it says "So that you will prove yourselves to be blameless and innocent, children of God above reproach in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you appear as lights in the world". Before that, Paul was talking about how we as Christians are called to walk, and then in this verse he says that we "appear as lights in the world" to unbelievers. Also, in Titus 2:7-8 it says “in all things show yourself to be an example of good deeds, with purity in doctrine, dignified, sound in speech which is beyond reproach, so that the opponent will be put to shame, having nothing bad to say about us.” We are an example of Christ to unbelievers; how they see us and what they hear us say represents Christ to them. If we are setting a Christ-like example it should come out in what we look like, how we act, what we say, and how we dress. Yes, some people may and probably will criticize, look down on, and maybe even despise us for dressing modestly, but our modesty is a manifestation of Christ in us. So it is not us that is being despised, but Christ shining through us.

Photography Credit: A True Focus Photography

Thank you, Bethany, for your lovely photos and words.

Let's welcome Lisa! 

Like Bethany, I'm friends with Lisa on Facebook and we've had many good chats, but we have yet to meet in person. (This needs to happen soon!) You may remember Lisa when she was featured on my blog last year during our dating/courtship event. 

And, drum roll... Lisa and David are expecting their first baby! Exciting, isn't it? We are thankful she took the time to do this for us! And Lisa has an awesome story behind her dress. Enjoy!

My husband and I were married this past November, and as we started looking at bridesmaid's dresses (and I started searching for a dress), we quickly realized that it was very difficult to find modest, beautiful dresses! Modesty has always been important to us - based off of 1 Tim 2:9-10 as well as many other examples and principles in Scripture. Everyone's standards are going to be slightly different, but mine were: sleeves, no cleavage, and at least at the knee.
For my own dress, we spent a TON of time searching. I tried online first, and totally struck out. I am also 6'1", so finding tall dresses throws a whole extra challenge in the mix. After finding a couple brands that made modest lines (most of them LDS), we found a shop here in Phoenix that carried some of the ones I was interested in. All the girls from my family, and my mom and my husband's mom all went way across town and spent a whole day trying on dresses. Nothing worked. Either the dress felt frumpy, or was too short, or didn't have the dropped waistline I wanted.....I came home pretty discouraged. I called one of my best friends (she was one of my bridesmaids), and was venting to her, when she suggested that I try on my mom's wedding dress. She had seen it once in a picture, and fell in love with it. It took some convincing, but I finally tried it, and it literally fit like a glove! I felt like it had been made for me, and it had everything I was hoping for - ivory instead of white, dropped waist, lots of lace... It was perfect. It was really fun because my grandma had it custom made for my mom, and we didn't tell her or my dad or anyone else that I would be wearing mom's dress. The surprise was so fun!

With my bridesmaid's dresses, I knew I wanted chocolate brown. Apparently, that's not a very popular bridesmaid dress color! :D I ended up looking in mother-of-the-bride dresses, and found that category to be much more in line with what I was looking for. I finally settled on a beautiful A-line, floor length dress from The wonderful thing about this company is that first, they have a HUGE selection of colors for every dress, so I could have the brown that I wanted! Second, I could enter the exact measurements of each of the girls so that even my tall sisters (6'2" and 6'4") could have floor length dresses! And third, they were by far the most affordable when it came to this quality of dress.

Everything turned out even more perfect and beautiful than I had dreamed of, and I am so thankful for how God brought everything together!
Thank you, Lisa, for your beautiful words and beautiful photos!

It's time for our last giveaway! And it's a beautiful one! Welcome Flor-Flower Garcia Webb with Papparazzi!

"You might think we're all about accessories, but Paparazzi is really about change! Changing the way people look. Changing the way people feel. Changing people's futures and their lives. Though our fashion-forward jewelry and product parties are centered on fun, Paparazzi fulfills a serious mission. We believe that trendy accessories can be available, and affordable, to women everywhere. We know that wearing a new look, and feeling confident in your appearance, builds amazing self-worth. Our passion is inspiring dreams, empowering talents, and reaching goals by sharing our products and the excitement of Paparazzi. We see it happen every day."

Isn't this gorgeous?!

To enter, please visit the website! Leave a comment here stating your favorite product! 

For a second entry, join the Facebook group! Leave a comment here with your Facebook username. 

For a third entry, like me on Facebook! Leave a comment here with your username. If you already follow me, share one of my book posts. Leave a comment here stating that you have done so. 

One lucky winner will be selected using a random number generator from the comments section. Winners of all contests from Say Yes to the Modest Dress will be announced next week at one time here on the blog. Please, no international entries due to exorbitant shipping costs. We're sorry!



  1. Both of these stories were so inspiring! I wish I could make my own wedding dress, but I'm making plans to wear my mom's :) visited the website!

  2. So lovely!!! Thanks for a fun serious of posts! <3

  3. I love the earrings and rings from Paparazzi! I am a member of Flor's page and liked your paged! -Brittany Michelle (Facebook)

  4. I visited her shop and I liked the What are you waiting for black earings.Cathy Walters Sandiford

  5. I visited the website and would love the Glam Artist necklace: (Although the giveaway necklace is probably my favorite! I love pearls!)

  6. I joined her group. Cathy Walters Sandiford

  7. I joined the FB group (Stacey Bradshaw).

  8. I shared one of your book posts on Facebook!

  9. I love the Princess Diaries in gold earrings! Joined group and liked page!!! Whoop whoop! Claire Renee Smith on FB. Loving the stories of these dresses along with the testimonies!!!

  10. Love Story necklace, (as shown at the bottom of this blog post! ;-) ) is definitely my pick for the prettiest thing they have ! That pearl look just can't be beat! :-)

    Lovely stories, ladies! :-)

  11. I LOVE the chocolate brown bridesmaids' dresses! I have dreamed of having my brides wear chocolate brown dresses at my wedding someday! It is hard to find that color, though, so it was a neat tip to look in the Mother of the Bride sections! Thanks so much to these two brides for sharing their stories, and to you, Alicia, for hosting this event!

  12. I have loved this series! I can't wait to see the next series you have lined up :)

  13. I love the idea of having a modest wedding dress! I think that they are so timeless. I think they also make the dress very unique, like this bride was! It's nice to buy them already modest so you don't have to worry about paying for tons of alterations.


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